An adopted or foster child will never be accepted as a "real" member of a family.
I answered this statement to be true. It sounds extremely harsh to say, but in reality I feel that when a child is adopted, it's very hard for that child to adapt. If I were to adopt a child, I would immediately accept them as one of my own, but I feel that they may not feel as if they were truly apart of the family. Naturally, when you grow up not being a foster child, you don't think about your family accepting you because it's basically implied. In one of my favorite shows, 90210, Dixon is a black adopted teen living in a white wealthy family. The family is so close and the parents have the same sense of compassion between each of the kids, but there's a feeling in Dixon's heart where he doesn't feel at home. He was never exposed to his own culture and he just feels out of place. There's a difference between being accepted by others and accepting yourself. Clearly everyone around him accepts him as a "real" part of the family, but it's hard for him to accept himself when he doesn't look like everyone else. In a sense I'm contradicting the statement I agreed to, but I'm just twisting it around a little. In conclusion, a foster child will, without a doubt, be accepted as a "real" member of the family, but inside that child may always feel like that's not truly where he belongs.
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samsonksss, i totally agree with you. I think that even though an adopted child is being considered a part of the family by everyone around them, it's hard for them to truly believe that. They will always notice the differences between them and their family (like Dixon does) and because of that it's harder for them to believe their really accepted in their family.
I wouldn't know how it feels, but this definitely sounds true. Kids feel a natural connection to their parents, and will always at least want to know where they came from. Parents can be as loving and close to their kids as possible, but a kid may always feel slightly out of place. They may even subconsciously notice favoritism or things like that. It's nobody's fault, its just hard to ignore that fact.
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